I can’t say it enough but I am truly blessed to be with a man who goes above & beyond for himself & his family. I seriously do fall in love with him all over again whenever with him which is pretty much almost all the time. Even as much as his pisses me off & annoys the crap out of me, I still love him. I’m so happy that he had the courage to come up to me & tell me how he felt about me. And I’m so happy that I stuck to my word when I said, “When the next good thing comes along, I’m not letting it go.” Being in a relationship is definitely hard work. But I feel that when you’re with someone that you really care about, it doesn’t feel that there’s any work involved. It should just feel like love between two. And that’s how it is for us.
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability — to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this…
When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation trip to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make your wonderful vacation plans. The coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It’s all very, very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The flight attendant comes in and says, “Welcome to Holland.”
“Holland?!?”, you say.” What do you mean, Holland? I signed up for Italy! I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I’ve dreamed of going to Italy. “
“But there’s been a change in the flight plan. They landed in Holland and there you must stay.”
The important thing is that they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine, and disease. It’s just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guidebooks. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It’s just a different place. It’s slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you’ve been there for awhile and you catch your breath, you look around, and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills. Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy, and they’re all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say, ‘Yes, that’s where I was supposed to go. That’s what I had planned.’
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever go away, because the loss of that dream is a very significant loss.
But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things about Holland.
2 years ago a man kissed me & literally swept me off my feet which changed my life forever. Happy 2 years to the most amazing man I’ve ever known. You are a great partner to me & father to our son. Cheers to 2 years & many more to come. I love you DPL<3
So I keep seeing & hearing people say “I can’t wait for the new year. I need a fresh start…blah, blah, blah” & what I don’t get is…why would you wait for the new year? Why would you want to make a new year’s resolution? Why don’t you make a day to day resolution? You don’t need a new year to start a change in your life. All you need is a new day & so far we’ve all been getting one. Do you really think a new year is going to make everything better? Well for those who think so, good luck with that. Just watch, when the new year rolls in it’s just going to be the same thing. You’re going to have your ups & downs just like any other year. And when the year is about to come to an end, there you go again with the “I can’t wait for this year to end…” attitude. You shouldn’t wait for the new year because you’re wasting the rest of the days of this year away. You could be using these upcoming days constructively instead of destructively. You could use these days for that resolution you’ve been saving for the new year. Who says tomorrow isn’t the new year? Every day is always a new year if you really think about it. So why wait? You’re wasting time. You’re wasting your energy. You’re wasting away days were you can be great & make difference. You’re wasting the chance to leave your mark on this year. 2011 is not over yet. Why waste it?
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This was the first episode I ever watched of the Community & it was this scene that made me want to watch even more of the Community. Too effin hilarious!
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